Sitting on the toilet always seems to give me clarity, and a lot of inspiration. Earlier today while camping out in the bathroom trying to have a few moments of peace, I realized something, I was notoriously observant, which was the nicer way of saying nosey. I had the bad habit of telling people how I felt and expecting them to be grateful for me doing what others were probably thinking anyway. I was the kind of friend who liked to offer unsolicited advice, the one always having an opinion who just liked to butt in! The truth is, I was just wrong.
I recently found out that one of my good friend and colleague’s fiancee was cheating on her with a very close family member of mine. what hurt me most was that she was sick around the time he did it. I was so torn, and disappointed that I wondered if I should’ve done the” RIGHT” thing and tell her the truth. After all, she was my friend, what kind of friend would I be if I hid this from her? I later found out that I would have been a GOOD friend, a great friend even, just the type of friend she wanted. The type that minded their own business, kept their head down and saw nothing. As I said before that was never me. So, I spilled the beans, she was neither appreciative nor was she grateful. I was accused of not wanting to see her happy, there was also some “mean spiteful bitch” being thrown around.
Needless to say, the friendship did suffer due to my revelation of the current state of her relationship. Lets just say that I wouldn’t get an invitation to the wedding. She probably would splash shitty water on me if she saw me standing next to a sewer. As hurt as I am by her actions and her attitude I can’t help but wonder, if it had been me, would I have wanted her to tell me? Would I have been contented to simply not know the truth? Is ignorance truly bliss? I’m conceited enough to say no, yet, you never really know how you will react to a situation until you are placed in one.
Is minding your own business the best way to preserve one’s friendships? who knows, I do know that I plan to mind my own business from now on. At least something god came out of all this.